My Little Greek Tragedy...

My daughter Abby is being a bear. Not to me, but to my wife. It seems there is some sort of personal angst directed at my wife but not at me. I know people say "Get used to it. Mother/Daughter relationships are like that" but good God, this is near schizophrenic. Example: Abby: "Don't look at me!." 2 minutes later: "You didn't wait for me! Hold me!" Really? What is going on in that little brain is beyond me. She is fine at school but saves it for my wife. I don't seem to be invited to her own personal vendetta/love affair. I wish I could help but I am not the target...Very frustrating and irritating....Oh well. Will just keep plugging along and making myself available if Abby ever decides to change her focus...